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Monday, February 18, 2008

DO WE REALLY NEED A REASON

Today I was watching this play on BET and one of the actors happened to say something that I found to be rather profound.    He said that while "Women need a reason to cheat, Men just need a location"  and I'd like to add "An Opportunity'' to that quote.  I started thinking about this and I think that it is very true.  In most instances in which a  woman cheats,  the man has given her cause to go looking for someone else.  I can honestly say that I have never cheated on any man that I was in a relationship with nor given him any cause to cheat on me.  I'd much rather cut him off than waste my time playing petty tit for tat , get him back by fucking his friend type games.   That's just the type of woman that I am.  I know my worth and I know that I'm damned sure worth more than a man who claims to love me and want to be with me but yet can't seem to keep himself as well as  parts of his anatomy from straying.
When I do decide to commit to someone, I'm totally and wholly committed.  I don't want , nor do I need anyone else but him.  Now I'm not blind and I may still notice a fine dude or two but nothing, and I mean nothing,  could make me stray.  Now men , they are a totally different species. All they need is a willing participant and it is on.  The chick doesn't even need to look good but as long as she has a hole, again it's on. 
 I have only been cheated on twice( to the best of my knowledge)   Both times I found out about it and as soon as I did.. that was it,  I was done.   
Both men apparently regretted it and attempted to get back with  me but if you don't have sense enough to know what a good woman I am and what a good thing you would be losing before you make the decision to stray, don't count on me being there for you after you come to your senses.  Yes, it hurt to have to cut them off and in one of those instances, it took me a while to get over it but I DID.   To this day, one of these men will do anything that I ask and His wasn't even an instance of sexual infidelity. Once, I called him up and he got up out of his bed , woman lying right next to him, to come and pick me and my girls up and drop us off at our respective homes and then he carried his ass on.  I got off on playing those little games with him for a while but then decided that that wasn't me.  The other , I still keep in touch with from time to time, and he has since told me how much I meant to him and how much of an impact I had on his life.  It felt good to hear that although I've always known that  I was possibly the best thing that ever happened to him.  He'll call and invite me out to visit him. (I always decline his invitations) and then he pretends to be so hurt that I would have no interest in seeing him again. I told him that I can be friends with him and have no problem keeping in touch with him via email, text messages, or the phone but there really isn't a need for us to see one another face to face unless its by happenstance. Hopefully they have learned that the grass isn't always greener and would choose to be faithful to the next female that they decide to get involved with.

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