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. I'm a sexy single lady just living it up in the big city. As you'll soon find out I have many interests and exploits. I love meeting people, and just living life to the fullest. I love my family, I love my friends, and I love my life! I am utterly addicted to the world wide web and can be a little wild and crazy at times but hey , aren't we all?

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Monday, July 31, 2006

Keep Yourselves


So, I was watching some reruns of Making The Band when I was appalled at the fact that Andrea, (one of the band members) was actually losing sleep over a dude. Man up girl and get with the program. You are about to blow-up (Of course, it's a long shot being that they are involved with Puffy, the career killa, but hopefully it will happen for you) I mean that chick called her man just about every hour on the hour, but what I found even more incredulous, was the fact that this man never had time to talk to her. He was either in the studio (he's a supposed producer), on the way to the club, out with his boys, had people waiting for him and blase' blah. The poor girl was practically begging this guy to talk to her only for a few minutes and he couldn't (or wouldn't) do that. Now during this episode I can say that she called him at least 6 times wth him never having more than 2 to 3 minutes (if that) to talk to her. Fast forward a bit, she calls and this man has the nerve to get on her for not calling him the previous night (she fell asleep). Now from the very first time she called him I'm dayum near shouting at the Tele "drop that nigga girl, he's up to no-good" But I was literally speechless when this guy actually broke up with her for not calling. Now you and I both know that this nigga was probably fucking around from the time she hopped on a plane to Miami and that was just the perfect opportunity and (excuse for him to drop her) but dayum mayun, at least be honest? Why is it that we females become so consumed by our relationships? I mean our relationships become our lives and pretty soon we end up losing ourselves. We want to eat, sleep, and breathe that nigga that we know don't mean us a bit of good. We make sure we're home because he "might" call and the keyword here is "Might". We get mad when he doesn't and end up calling him trying to find out where he was last night and with whom and why he didn't call? He tells us he doesn't love us anymore and we lock ourselves in our rooms, eating ice-cream and crying our eyes out and for what? I say fuck that nigga? That's right, I said it, say it with me, FUCK DAT NIGGA!!" Take your game to the next level and make sure that man knows that you are the number 1 priority in all instances and he is dayum lucky to have you. He doesn't call, so what? Don't bombard him with 20 questions about why, where, and when, but instead, make him feel like he wasn't even missed. Let him know that he dayum sure can be NEXTED if he continues to fuck up. Go on about your life, if you have plans, keep them, don't alter them because dude might show up. You are wayyy more important than that. Start putting yourselves first and let him get in where he fits in. Never let a plain dude (or any dude for that matter) rule your world because you are running thangz around here. Always remember that!




Speaking of Danity Kane(that's the name of the Making The Band group), Wassup with that CD Photo? Why can't the black chicks ever get a chance to be front and center. Why do they have ugly Aubrey in the middle like the bitch really can sing? Like Ms. Jones said "only 3 of ya'll bitches can sing" and those three would be Dawn, Aundrea, And D woods (and even she is iffy). If I was D woods(aka Juanita), I would be pissed. All of them other bitches get to show skin and they got her covered up like she is the mama of the group. Not only that, but they got her ass off in the background like she isn't even really a part of Danity Kane. She's stepping on the opposite foot as everyone else looking like they just threw her ass in the photo as an after thought. She better get on Puff about that so he can correct it before their album debuts.
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Summa Daze, Summa Daze!!!





I have really gotten summer fever, so much so that a sista played hooky from work today to lounge pool side and chill. Unfortunately, I picked the wrong day because it was 100 today. Nobody should be out in this heat but I carried my butt to the pool anyway. Water felt good!!!! Usually it takes me a while to get used to the chill of the water but because it was so hot, I dove right in. I brought my book(Still Sheisty), my hat, my shades, my sunscreen(a Diva's best friend) and my water bottle and a sister was maxin' and relaxin'. Was enjoying the water and my solace until these 4 clowns (I.E. wanna be mack daddies) invaded my space. Why is it that a man will not take "NO" for an answer? These guys continued to get on my nerves. Sitting by me, singing, trying to strike up convos, touching my shit, and doing whatever else they could think of to keep my attention. I finally had to break out the bitch and get rude with them so there would be no mistaking that I wanted to be by my dayum self. I told them that I was there to relax and unwind and judging by the looks of them (there were 4 ) that there was nothing that they could do for me financially, or in the bedroom (had to include the dick since that is there magic answer to everything)so they may as well take their broke down behinds on to the next chick. Yeah, they called me all kinds of bitches to which I politely responded with a "Thank You" while shooing their trifling asses out of my space. Sometimes ladies, ya'll know that we just have to take it there because these men simply refuse to take "NO" for an answer. I really hate to go the rude route as that is not me-- Really it isn't, but some folks just are not satisfied until you bring the "Bish" out!!
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Friday, July 28, 2006

STFU!! Will ya?

FWB is getting on my last damn nerve! Why is this grown ass man whining and bitching in my ear. I do not have time for this bull! Look nukka, you are not my man and I don't owe you a dayum thing! Don't get me wrong now, I do enjoy your company, and I find you sexy as hell and you MOST definitely puts it down when it's time, but did you forget that we decided a while ago that we wouldn't put a label on our "relationship". We both decided that we didn't want or need to answer to anybody and we'd be together when we're together. Why in the hell are you trying to change the game plan, Now? I wanted a one on one relationship but YOU weren't ready so now that I'm in agreement, you want to be exclusive? Ain't that just like a man? Don't call me on my job whining because I ignored you last week when I had company and now I am going out tonight and you still haven't seen me. DO you Bruh!!! DO you!!! We are friends, I AM NOT YOUR WIFE!!! *end rant* Anyway, I am going out for Mojitos and Sushi tonight ( I really hate sushi but decided to give it another try. I had the california roll the last time and I was not a happy camper)and I haven't a clue what to wear, comfy casual, sexy casual,dressy, or jean it up? There's going to be a rather large group of us (guys and gals lol) lemme call up T and see what she is wearing. I don't really want to wear jeans, maybe I'll throw on a cute lil dress. Nothing too tight or too sexy though, don't want to steal anybody's shine haha.
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Wednesday, July 26, 2006

Alternative Lifestyle living folk, Whodathunk?

Okay, so my company has come and gone and me feeling a little bored last night decided to hit up the gay club scene. Now you know it wasn't my idea, only one person could come up with something so out-of-the box for me and that person is none other than my girl Jazzy. Of course I was like "Hell to the naw" ( Thanks Whit for my new catch phrase) but listening to her bitching and moaning all night would've driven me mad. She said that if I went, I wouldn't regret it because it is so much fun. I gave in and she calls up "Delicious" (yeah I know it's cliche right? Every gay male has to be named Peaches, Delicious or some other outlandish mess) and lets him know that we are on our way and will meet him at the club. Anyway we get there and the club is jumping. Mostly men, as would be expected, but there was a decent amount of females there as well. These men were fine, I tell ya, FIONE!! What a fuckin' waste of a big dick. All that gorgeousness going to waste. Now there were some obvious flamers but there were also a good mix of the thuggish, ruggish bones too. I mean save for the fact that I was in a gay club, I wouldn't have been able to tell that the coochie had no power in their midst( and I am one who always prided herself on her "gaydar".) Anyway, it was rather refreshing to be able to dance, get my drink on and socialize without having to worry about every man who thinks his game is tight trying to get with me. I ended up having a blast. The gay folk really know how to Pawtay and dare I take it a step further and say, you haven't really partied until you've been to a gay club. I mean we danced and sipped and danced some mo'. Delicious is a straight up nut and his clique/crew is even worse. They had me dancing on the bar and what not but I loved every minute of it. I had a few chicks trying to hit on me but I let them know with the quickness that I was all about the dick. This one chick approached me and she was gorgeous and her game wasn't as weak as I expected. Ya'll know, one of them slick mouth sistas. (Yeah, I can appreciate the beauty in a woman but I really don't think that I could ever go that route) but had there been an inkling of curiosity in me though, I would've given ol' girl about an hour or two lol. I really and truly enjoyed myself. I haven't partied like that in a minute and I didn't give a damn about my hair, make-up smudging, sweat or anything. I was just there to have fun, dance, drink, mingle. and release some pent up stress lol. One thing I did notice was that they just do not give a fuck either. No fakeness or pretenses whatsoever. I like that vibe. Anyway after that we stopped at IHOP, (Delicious and crew in tow), got our grub on and then I headed for home. I know my behind did not need to be out partying like it was 2009 when I had to go to work in the morning but hell, I'm young and you only live once, am I right? I exchanged phone numbers with Delicious and although he is Jazzy's friend, we clicked big time. I'mma steal him away from her lol . He's fly, fierce and crooked as hell so you know I'll be having lots of stories to tell. Hey that rhymed. lol
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Sunday, July 23, 2006

Whew. Busy Busy Me!

I have been so busy lately. I had relatives in from out-of-town and I have been running and spending like mad. I've been to the casinos just about everyday this week, eating at the buffets and losing my money lol. Well, my last day I did win my money back. I took about 90 dollars and when I got down to my last 20 I won it all back (playing the penny slots) except for $10. At least I came back with something so it's cool. I've been eating out a lot too. I told my guests that we sure have been eating too much and they said not really. Yes, we've been eating out damn near everyday but most of the time, that was the only meal that we would eat so I guess it all balances out. They will be gone tomorrow morning and it's back to the old grind for me. I love having out-of-town guests, It's fun taking them around the city and doing things that I wouldn't normally do but I'd much rather be the one doing the visiting. I will be on my vacay next month and I cannot wait,WhoooHOOO!!!
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Friday, July 14, 2006

Who am I you ask?

I AM:

~~A wearer of strappy heels,figure flattering 'fit and well manicured/pedicured parts
~~Mildly obsessed with intoxicating fragrances, matt lipsticks, juicy tubes, and
exfoliation
~~Open minded, honest, loyal, generous to a fault(but in no way stupid or naive)
~~Down for my peeps, my family, my friends, and my man
~~Viewer of various perspectives, all the while being overtly introspective
~~Ironic, sometimes a walking contradiction.
~~Avoider of controversy, forseer of "drama" Yet in no wise clairvoyant.
~~Trusting,yet suspicious
~~As real as they come
~~Femininity personafied,yet prone to handle my shyt whenever the need may arise
~~a daughter,sister,lady,friend,lover,confidant and such a girl.
~~Your muse as well as your vice ~wink~
~~A cultivator of new ideas, a doer and a thinker.
~~Vain yet modest, vulnerable yet confident.
~~A dream and at times your worst nightmare
~~But always, I AM:

A WOMAN!!!!
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Bey Bey Bey. Hated it!


So, the much talked about video from tam Bey-Z finally debuted Wednesday. Yes, that's right folks, the video for Deja Vu is here! I can say that I wasn't really feeling it too much. First of all, the majority of the outfits, were monstrosities. Pin-stripes, big peasant blouses, come on now? We understand that you need to advertise for House of Dereon but you and I both know that most of the designer wear they sell is nothing more than over-priced garbage. The jeans are cool and a few of the tops but I'm going to really need Ms. Tina to get some designer inspiration STAT! Secondly, The locations were cool. Loved the swamp/Bayou feel and of course, Jay-z is always good, but Bey on the other hand, dancing and shaking like she was having a canniption could've done much better. Who told her she could dance? I mean really? Her spastic movements along with shaking and shimmying does not a dancer make? A megastar like her should've been in dance classes ASAP. Aayway, if You haven't already, you can check it out on MTV'S Overdrive.
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Thursday, July 13, 2006

I've been a bad, bad, girl but fuck it. ladies is pimps too go on and brush yo shoulder off.

I really don't know what in the heck has come over me. AN ex,not THE ex called me out of the blue and wanted to see if I wanted to go to the show (movies) with him. I didn't have any other plans and I knew that a movie always included dinner afterwards so I said why not? I get off work and throw on some jeans and a halter and my pumps and wait for dude. He shows up and I open the door and let me tell ya'll this man was looking fine as hayel!!! One look at him and my legs started getting weak and my pussy wet. All of a sudden I didn't feel like going out anymore I just wanted to stay in and feel this man inside me,10 toes in the air and legs wrapped around his back. I tell him that I really didn't feel like going out after all and suggested we rent a movie and watch it at my spot. A nugga is always down for some action so of course he was with it. We go get some movies, I got Love Jones. He never saw it before (and with any luck he would be missing it again) and he got some kind of scary shit. While we're there, I suggest stopping to get some take-out and he says no, he wants to cook( this man can throw down in the kitchen too) so we head to the grocery store and he picks up the ingredients he needs to whip up some chicken marsala. Ok ya'll that meal was slammin'. Along with the chicken marsala, we had pasta,asparagus an a cheese cake for dessert. After that we hit the couch and I put in the movie. We're laying back chillin' sippin on some JD twisted and I lay my head in his lap. He starts stroking my hair then rubbin' on my chests and then I reach up and pull him down to me (by his neck) and we start kissing. Next thing I know, clothes come off and I am bouncing on that dick riding the hell out of it like that damn dick was going to disappear in 2 and 2. Damn that was some good shit too. Afterwards it was kind of awkward because deep down I wanted to tell him to get the fuck up and go home but I allowed him to spend the obligatory night. It was good at the time but that is so not me. Why did he have to show up looking and smellin all good and shit? Anyway that's my little "Ho" moment. Just thought I'd share.
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Saturday, July 01, 2006

The ex has been blowing up my spot bigtime. I can't really say that we ever really kept in contact consistently but lately he's been calling a lot. The first call was unexpectedly out of the blue. He was thinking about me( so he says) and wanted to see what I was up to. Okay, that's cool. We had a nice convo, reminisced, talked about our relationship, He thanked me and told me how much I meant to him back then and blase' blah. He says he would like to see me(mind you ...not to try to get with me but just to see an "old friend".) Says I can stay with him or he can come and see me. I said I don't know about that. He tried to feign being hurt that I wouldn't want to see him again,which isn't exactlyw hat I said. I just said that I didn't know about that. But anyway, I have talked to him about 3 or 4 times in the past two weeks which is really saying a lot. I wonder what is up with him? He told me he doesn't have a girlfriend when he first called, preferring to refer to her only as "my baby mama" which in laymens terms translates to yes, she had my child, yes we are still fucking even though I don't claim her as my woman to other females.I really don't mind him calling although I don't think that I would ever get back together with him. That's a part of my life that is best left in the past. We can be friends all day every day but as for anything more, I don't think so (but I've learned to never say never.)
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