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. I'm a sexy single lady just living it up in the big city. As you'll soon find out I have many interests and exploits. I love meeting people, and just living life to the fullest. I love my family, I love my friends, and I love my life! I am utterly addicted to the world wide web and can be a little wild and crazy at times but hey , aren't we all?

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Thursday, February 28, 2008

Ladies, We Have Got To Do Better Than This


For those of you who may not know, this is the audition/casting call for Plies' "Bust It Baby" reality show which is possibly in the works.
 




Really Ladies(and I use that term very loosely because ain't nary a one of those chicks in that video a lady"? Is this what we have become? Do we really think so little of ourselves that we would be willing to degrade ourselves in such a way as this? For what? Some face time on a reality TV show? An opportunity to be in the presence of a rapper as long as the cameras are rolling(because he damn sure will not be wifing any of you. The most that you can hope to become is a part time jump off and the chance of you even becoming that is slim to none) Why would any lady want to be referred to as someone's "Bust It Baby"? The term alone should be a turn off as it triggers thoughts of being someone's cum receptacle... that's it, that's all, nothing more! Regardless of whether or not you're a Whore or a Slore, (or in this case , because I don't know these girls personally, give the impression thereof) if that's you, do you, but please, have enough sense not to do it on cam for the entire world to see. You may say "Well I'm young, I'm just having some fun while I still can" but do not the young( or young minded in this instance because these chicks look like grown azz women to me), eventually need to grow up? Do they not eventually become older and more mature...hopefully? Do you really want a keepsake of you stating how you love to feel a penis hitting your tonsils recorded on video forever? What if you find the man of your dreams who happens to be an upstanding citizen and well respected member of the community? Suppose you become such a person yourself? What about future children and Grandchildren? Do you really what them seeing this side of you when your 15 minutes of fame comes back to haunt you (and it undoubtedly will) Trust! I hope not!
Some of the rappers have ben bashed because some believe that their lyrics and videos are contributing to the degradation of women. While that may be true to a certain extent , some of us do a good job of that on our on. We don't need a rapper to degrade us because we degrade ourselves. I don't think that you can blame it on the lyrics of some hip hop artists when we are the ones clamoring to be in the videos, be in the reality Tv shows, be seen with the very same person who called you a video hoe or a bitch in one of his songs. Not only that but we allow ourselves to be seen fucking and sucking, stripping, boasting about our body parts and everything else on cam. C'mon Ladies, We have got to do better than this because this shyt right here, don't make no sense.!
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Monday, February 25, 2008

Ladies Keep yourself

So I just found out that a friend that I know has passed away. (The phone keeps ringing with people calling to tell me that she passed.)She was 44 years old.  Now she and I weren't particularly friends per se because she was one of the older girls, but she was a friend of my cousin and since everyone in the neighborhood were either related or grew up together, I refer to her as a friend.  It always saddens me to hear that someone has died.  I mean it just consumes me in such a way that I can't think of anything but their death.  I remember when she had her baby at the age of 16. This baby was so pretty and had the prettiest hazel eyes.  I can remember running over to her house to see the baby and her not wanting anyof us kids to touch her.  (The"baby", who is not such a baby anymore, has since had a child of her own)  Anyway,  I can remember her being rather fast for her age.   I'm not sure but I think she left home not too long after she had the baby and just became wild.  I hadn't seen her in years but I had heard from other family and friends that she was on drugs.  Now what kind of drugs she was doing, I have no idea and I wouldn't even go so far as to call her an addict because I really don't know.  I had also heard rumors of her having AIDS.  I did see her one or two years ago when I went back home for something.  She spoke and I spoke.  She didn't look too good to me, She looked old and thin and I think she was even using a cane to get around.  I felt horrible seeing her looking like that. My family members were telling me that what I saw, was a good look compared to what she had been looking like.  Anyway,  I guess she had been sick and had recovered from her sickness.  She moved back in with her mom and her daughter.  Her daughter didn't like her too much.(I suspect it stems from separation issues)  If you are running the streets, you don't have much time to spend with or care for a child.  She didn't want her to have anything to do with her own grandchild and she also talked plenty shit about her.  She would see her mom walking and drive right on by her.  When I heard that she passed and her family was there, my mind immediately went to her daughter. It would'nt surprise me if she hadn't even bothered to show up from the things that I had been hearing about her. Anyway, she is no longer in pain and hopefully she is in a better place.  It just saddens me to know that she died before her time and from such a horrible disease.  Tragic!
She isn't the only person that I know who died relatively young.  I know another girl who I grew up with( we weren't friends either because she was never allowed outside ) who died at the age of 27 of a drug overdose.  I believe that her parents were so strict on her that she couldn't wait to fly the coup.  She wasn't allowed outside,  always had to wear dresses or skirts(never pants or shorts)  lived in church(which is a good thing) but a child needs to have room to grow.  I, being a child as well, wasn't always the nicest person to her.  I may have teased her a bit as is often the case with children, never realizing how it affected her until years later. My cousin told me that she said that she couldn't stand me.  I'm thinking why not?  The only thing she knows about me is my name.  I never messed with her like that and then I remembered I may have teased her a bit.  Anyway, I guess her sheltered lifestyle caused her to run rampant.  I remember seeing her a few months before she OD'd.  We were in the grocery store and she came and said something to my Aunt.  I couldn't stop staring at her because she looked bad.  Her eyes were bloodshot and yellowed.  I told my aunt that she looked like she had been drinking and my aunt said "Girl, she does everything, drugs too".  I was shocked because I knew how she used to be but then again not surprised.   My Aunt told me they found her dead of a drug overdose not too much longer after that.  She left behind 3 little kids.  I mean under the age of 6.   I guess if I could say anything, it would be "Don't be in such a rush to grow up" Enjoy  your childhood and being a kid while you can.  Everything that you think that you are missing out on will still be there when you are old enough to handle and to enjoy them."  I would hate for anyone else to end up like my acquaintances because they were in such a rush to grow up!
May they both RIP!!!!
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Sunday, February 24, 2008

Weekend? Over? Already?

 


I just came home from church, and then Hooters with the girls, needless to say I am stuffed but we had enough wings that I can have some for dinner tomorrow. I don't really feel like doing much else other than relaxing. I think the "ITIS" has set in. I'm going to attempt to watch a Bball game or two if sleep doesn't catch me first. I sure hate when the weekend is over because it's back to the Monday grind! ~Big Sigh~ This weekend wasn't nearly long enough.
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Pour out a lil' liquor

There are no words ~sniff-sniff~.NOOOOOO! Not Omar!! Mama NNOOOOOOOOO!   I love The Wire and all that, but c'mon! I know they could have done better than that. Kenard? Kenard? Are you F'in kidding me? ~sniff, sniff~ I had a love -hate relationship with you  but even so, I can truly say I'mma miss you man! *pouring out a lil' liquor*




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Friday, February 22, 2008

Old School Friday





Today's old school artist is Das EFX!!! Ya'll remember them? This used to be my shyt back in the day? I'm sitting over here jammin' to some oldies, sippin' on a glass of wine while I try to figure out what I'm going to wear to this poetry slam tonight. Enjoy!
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Thursday, February 21, 2008

Mama Noooooooooooooooooo




For those of you who may not know, this is Frankie, Keyshia Cole's mama, yes I said MAMA and believe me I use that term very loosely. I know Keyshia had to be embarrassed as hell. Frankie needs to act a fool on her own time and not at her daughter's fuctions. Better yet, she needs to sit her old ass down somewhere and act her age. She out there in her mini dress, blonde wig/weave (as fierce as that cut is) dancing up on stage at her daughters platinum party( and no she didn't say "Happy ValenTIMES Day". Not only is she dropping it like its hot, she's smacking her ass on top of it. I thought Janice Combs was a hot mess but Frankie has got her beat. Jesus take the wheel...please!
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Tuesday, February 19, 2008

You Me and She




Okay, So I'm reading this book Something on the Side by Carl Weber.  I'm on page 27 of 390 and already, I have a good idea of what will happen in this story.  It's about these women.  One of whom is married.  So far, she is trying to do something special for her husband's 40th birthday by taking him to Hedonism in Jamaica.  She also wants to take her BFF to Hedonism with them so she can be the third in their ménage à trois.   So far the BFF has declined but I know, Ya'll know what will happen.  First of all she has already broken a few cardinal rules:







  • Never let your friends know how good your man is in bed, lest they get curious and want to sample the dick for themselves.
  • Never invite another woman into your man's bed ( doesn't matter if you are present or not) Don't do it! Especially if you care for said man and are trying to build something with him.
  • If you ARE stupid enough to invite another woman into the mix.  At least have enough sense to not let it be a friend or worse yet, your BFF.

I know we women like to brag on our men and I know how we are when we get some good dick. We want to shout it from the rooftops and tell anyone that would listen how he put it down. But keep that to yourself when you are amongst friends.  I know you and your girl have been BFF's since Kindergarten but  if she hears about the good dick your man is putting down, how he is blowing your back out every night and how he licks your pussy until you squirt. You dayum right she is going to start to want that in her own life (especially if she ain't getting none and your man is looking right.)  Curiosity killed the cat or in this case curiosity might get her cat killed (by your man) so mums the word on your man's bedroom skills.

You know when we women fall in love, we fall hard and deep. Just make sure you don't let yourself fall deep into a ménage à trois. It's all good if it's you and two dudes but as far as you, your man, and another woman.  DEAL BREAKER!  I won't even go as far as to say that a girl, girl, guy ménage à trois  is automatically off limits, but I will say that if the man is your husband, fiance', long term significant other, or someone that you really love and care for, DO NOT DO IT.  Men can be some slick  mofo's too . They will try to coax you into agreeing to their fantasy  believing that they will wear you down:   "If you  really love me you would do it";  It's just going to be this one time and I'll never ask you again";  "You said you'd do anything for me"  "If you don't someone else will"...well, let someone else do it then because I am not the one.  I said I love you nicca but I am not stupid and I damn sure ain't no fool.  You give in once and then you either got him asking for "Just one more time, I promise" or your girl or your man creeping trying to get another taste.  She may pull out all of the stops on YOUR man and leave you stuck on stupid trying to figure out how she's popping her pussy while giving head upside down  in a back bend or worse yet, He may pull out all of his tricks on her leaving her ass twitching, stuttering and drooling and I know.... you don't want that.  Doubly worse if the chick is an acquaintance or friend.  So to save yourself some heartache or unnecessary worry, when the ménage à trois  involves YOUR  man, leave it alone and just say NO!!!   Just in case my words have fallen on deaf ears( or in this case my words have fallen on blind eyes  peep the pic below:





This Bish on the right (obviously the trois in the Menage) done got the good dick and is already plotting her next move  Look at her sneaky ass.  Ladies don't let this become your situation.




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Monday, February 18, 2008

DO WE REALLY NEED A REASON

Today I was watching this play on BET and one of the actors happened to say something that I found to be rather profound.    He said that while "Women need a reason to cheat, Men just need a location"  and I'd like to add "An Opportunity'' to that quote.  I started thinking about this and I think that it is very true.  In most instances in which a  woman cheats,  the man has given her cause to go looking for someone else.  I can honestly say that I have never cheated on any man that I was in a relationship with nor given him any cause to cheat on me.  I'd much rather cut him off than waste my time playing petty tit for tat , get him back by fucking his friend type games.   That's just the type of woman that I am.  I know my worth and I know that I'm damned sure worth more than a man who claims to love me and want to be with me but yet can't seem to keep himself as well as  parts of his anatomy from straying.
When I do decide to commit to someone, I'm totally and wholly committed.  I don't want , nor do I need anyone else but him.  Now I'm not blind and I may still notice a fine dude or two but nothing, and I mean nothing,  could make me stray.  Now men , they are a totally different species. All they need is a willing participant and it is on.  The chick doesn't even need to look good but as long as she has a hole, again it's on. 
 I have only been cheated on twice( to the best of my knowledge)   Both times I found out about it and as soon as I did.. that was it,  I was done.   
Both men apparently regretted it and attempted to get back with  me but if you don't have sense enough to know what a good woman I am and what a good thing you would be losing before you make the decision to stray, don't count on me being there for you after you come to your senses.  Yes, it hurt to have to cut them off and in one of those instances, it took me a while to get over it but I DID.   To this day, one of these men will do anything that I ask and His wasn't even an instance of sexual infidelity. Once, I called him up and he got up out of his bed , woman lying right next to him, to come and pick me and my girls up and drop us off at our respective homes and then he carried his ass on.  I got off on playing those little games with him for a while but then decided that that wasn't me.  The other , I still keep in touch with from time to time, and he has since told me how much I meant to him and how much of an impact I had on his life.  It felt good to hear that although I've always known that  I was possibly the best thing that ever happened to him.  He'll call and invite me out to visit him. (I always decline his invitations) and then he pretends to be so hurt that I would have no interest in seeing him again. I told him that I can be friends with him and have no problem keeping in touch with him via email, text messages, or the phone but there really isn't a need for us to see one another face to face unless its by happenstance. Hopefully they have learned that the grass isn't always greener and would choose to be faithful to the next female that they decide to get involved with.
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Saturday, February 16, 2008

ROCK THE VOTE




I found this to be uniquely interesting. Maybe you will as well!
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Friday, February 15, 2008

Now that  my V Day festivities are over and its the weekend bayyyybay, I can finally take some time to recoup.    My Valentines Day was awesome.  Blow jobs, dancing, laughing, shit talking, hootin', hollerin and just plain old acting a fool.  For ya'll nasty folks that might be thinking of the fellatio blow job, get your mind out of the gutter with your nasty self.  Im talking about the Bailey Irish creme, Amaretto, and whipped cream shots that you take in your mouth ( no hands and Yes!!  You definitely need to SWALLOW) shots referred to as a Blow job.  I'm a beer, Mojito, martini type girl at heart so I was mixing all of the above and throwing them back like  it was water.  Ya'll know I paid for it today right?  I haven't felt like this since my good old college days.  You know how it is when you talk to God and promise that you'll never, ever, ever, drink again if only he would make your head stop thumping and make the contents of your belly stay put.  I don't know what in the hell I was thinking because after that, my ass couldn't do  anything but pray that the room stopped spinning and take my ass to bed.  Didn't even get no dick but I still  had a ball. ~wink~



Not as much fun as a dick but they sure are pretty 
andthey taste OH SO GOOD!


On another note, why did my "friend" call me at 3 or 4 something in the morning.  I don't really know what time he called but I do know after the evening that I had,  it was TOO DAYUM EARLY for me.   Anyway, he called talking about can he come over because he wants to "taste" me.  I was like "Excuse me?"  and he said "Come on, you know you want that pussy licked."    I had to introduce that nicca to my friend Tone  because he knows I don't play that shit.  Unless you are my man and we are in the midst of fucking or trying to, don't call me at an ungodly hour asking me can you lick anything on my body.  I find that disrespectful since he and I have never gotten down like that.  Besides, I remember when there was a time that a dude wouldn't even admit that he ate pussy now niccas are using it as a pick up line WTF?   Same with females.  Please, back in the day  you'd be hard pressed to find a chick  who admitted to sucking dick but now they wear that shit proudly.  Say it loud:  I suck dick and I'm proud.  lol   When I sober up a bit more his ass will definitely be hearing it from me.  If he even remotely had a chance to  taste my goodies,  it's all but gone now  cause dude definitely got some 'splainin to do.  Anyway,  It's friday night and I'm about to pop a Tylenol and take my ass to bed.  Dayum shame because it is only 9:22 but I want to be able to enjoy my spa day tomorrow and if I'm still feeling the remnants of this hangover, I'm going to be one pissed bish.   Nighty night!
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Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Big Thangs Poppin'

So tomorrow is Valentines Day and I haven't as of yet decided what I'm going to do.  Although I'm doing the "casual" dating thing right now I don't have that One special person that I'm obligated to spend VD with. I have several options  but being that it is dayum near the Tundra here, I don't even want to step foot outside these doors.   Not really up for dinner, Not really in the mood for some dude to be all up in my face doing the lovey, dovey thang,  Gifts?  That I'm up for!  Sex?   Hell yeah I'm up for that!  tee hee. I'm seriously thinking about hanging out with the girls this VD.  Hey  the day is about love and I do love my girls.    I'm almost always guaranteed to have a good time with them anyway. 

Miko has been down in the dumps lately because she lost her man, boyfriend or whatever she calls him.  He ended up  getting back with his baby's mama and trying to work things out.  I can understand how Miko feels  but truth be told she was seeing several other men as well.  Miko, is beautiful, bright, and smart so why she is letting this one get her down is beyond me.  I don't think that she really cares that she is no longer seeing him. I think she is mad at the fact that he was the one to break things off with her.... first.   I don't think she has ever been "dumped" before and it is really fucking with her head that someone doesn't want to be with her.    She told me that he has been texting her and calling her but she hasn't returned any of his messages  which is exactly they way she needs to handle the situation..  He wanted to be with his baby mama so let him be with her.   I know she doesn't have any plans so I'm seriously thinking about rounding up the crew and spending the day drinking, laughing, dancing and watching the strippas.  After that, and if I'm feeling up to it, I'll spend the rest of the evening with one of my suitors.  That should leave enough time to have some bubble bath play, some massages, and some good ass dick!  :::big grin:::.  Yeah!!!  I'm liking the sound of that! Now I just need to think of a good gift to give him besides moi!
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Thursday, February 07, 2008

What the heck is going on here.


I woke up this morning and cramps had my azz laid out!  I couldn't even get out of the bed let alone make it in to work.  I don't know what is up with that because I haven't had cramps like this in years and I do mean YEARS!

 Now I used to get them really bad, to the point that I would throw-up, sweat, and need to go to the ER so when folks say cramps aren't real, I say you are a muhfuccin' lie!  Anyway, I haven't had one of those sweating, throw-ing up episodes since college and I do not miss them one bit.  

I don't know what is up with me today though because these dayum cramps got me laid up and out of commission.  I'm not feeling this AT ALL.  TMI I know  but hey that's how it be sometimes.
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